Lois Almond's dying was unexpected. I was much cared for by her. I find myself being surprised at the depth of my feelings for her and how I am missing her. As a grieving son-in-law I am disappointed at the way many folks ignore my pain as they reach out to my wife in her loss, yet I am grateful for their caring of her and indirectly of me. Nevertheless my feeling of being ignored compounds and sometimes confuses my grief---it's as if my grief is somehow not legitimate, supposedly because I am "just" a "son-in-law."
I am surprised at how much I miss her.