For Julie Ann

Steve Knowland

Julie and I met at a summer job while in college. We hit it off right away. We were both psychology majors and had such big plans for saving the world. We ended up putting off grad school so we could get married and were fortunate enough to find jobs at the local mental health agency. We started building our life together and bought a house one year into the marriage. We got cats and dogs. Our lives were perfect. We never had a fight in the 6 years we were together, a fact that continues to amaze people. But Julie's life was cut short when she had a stroke five days after Christmas in 1994.

It's been one year, seven months and twenty-four days at the time of this writing since she passed away. Many people tell me she has gone to heaven, that God needed her. I don't know about that one, but I admit that there was a reason for her to die. In the last year and a half my life has undergone many changes; changes that would not have taken place had Julie not died. I found a better job that I love and I have built a strong relationship with my sis-in-law. More importantly, I have become more in touch with who I am deep down inside.

Julie, I will always love you. You were the first love of my life and will hold a special place in my heart for eternity.

My web page has been dedicated to Julie's memory.

Mail Welcome.
You can reach Steve at the following email address: [email protected]

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