Officer & Gentleman

Linda Jo Letscher

There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of the loss of my husband Jim, 9 years ago to a heart attack. We were out for a Saturday drive with my parents who were visiting from out of town, Jim got sick and had a heart attack in the car while I was driving. I stopped, had someone call 911 and did CPR until the fire department arrived. We were flown to a trauma center where they tried valiantly to save his life. I knew in my heart he was gone but they tried so hard. I left that day for a nice ride along the ocean with my husband and parents and came home that evening alone with a trash bag with his clothing in it, single, 40 years old, widow, no longer a Navy wife. What a change in 3 to 4 hours. (4/4/87)

Jim was 40 years old, handsome, in top health, naval aviator, playing 3 handicap golf & "A" tennis. He jogged every other day and lifted weights. He was one of the most intelligent men I have ever known.

He loved me, life and his US Navy. He was such a special person in my life. We met in our mid 30's and fell in love on our first date. He taught me strength, trust, and love. I will feel forever fortunate to have had Jim in my life, even though it was for way too short a time. Lcdr. James William Letscher, Jr. was honest, fun, loved life, and everything it had to offer.

He will always be in my heart and I will always love him. My life was enriched beyond words, on this earth by knowing and being married to him. I have worked through my grief and gotten on in my life but the empty space in my heart left by my loss will never be filled. Sometimes the grief resurfaces and I feel it, deal with it and then it passes.

With love to you Jim,
Linda Jo Letscher

You can send email to Linda at: [email protected]
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anniversary date 4-4-87
date of post 10-26-96

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