In Honor of My Husband, Charlie, My Lover, My Soulmate, My Friend


It has taken 3 long months for me to complete this memorial. I signed onto this web site about a week after my life was torn apart. On that fateful morning, I called my love at 8:15am and we chatted, told each other how much we loved each other, and hung-up. At sometime during the next 15 minutes, the angels came to take my best friend home to be with the Lord. It appears from all appearances and opinions that this was a peaceful occurrence and he did suffer at all.

The call I received once the hospital knew there was nothing further they could do was the hardest dose of reality I've ever had to deal with. They let me into the room to say goodbye and yet, he did look peaceful. From all accounts, the last person he spoke to on this earth was me. The next task I had was to tell my two children, 12 and 15 that their father was gone. This was the most painful of all, as he was a wonderful father.

Charlie was also a Boy Scout leader, and next I needed to tell our extended family that their buddy, mentor and companion was gone. The house was filled with family, friends, and co-workers to try and help me through this tragedy.

The question I kept asking was why -he was healthy, we were happy - why was everything taken from me in a matter of 15 minutes. We had been childhood sweethearts and would have been together a total of 25 years next year, the last seventeen of those in a very happy marriage.

Charlie was the type of person that everyone liked. I was amazed that over 250 people attended his service and all had wonderful memories to share. He was slow to anger and slow to judge and always gave others the benefit of doubt.

In my grief, I have looked to my faith to help me through this ordeal. My only explanation is that somewhere there is someone in need of a guardian angel, and Charlie fit the bill for the task. He is somewhere, out there, guiding and leading someone down the path they need to follow. I also see him in the night stars and talk to him as he is always with me and will be for all eternity.


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anniversary date 08-24-98
date of post 11-24-98

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