My Perfect Role Model

Antoinette Hannibal

My young mother, Patricia Scott, died on 1-24-98 due to uterine cancer. She fought a good fight! In November of 1997, my husband and I left our home and moved in with my mom so that I could take care of her along with my father and other siblings. She never accepted the death sentence. She was very positive throughout the entire time. Always saying "God is Good". And she never let on to any of her children that she was dying, however, out of her four children, me being the second oldest--God allowed for me to know the seriousness of the issue at hand--I accepted. I cared for my mother 24 hours a day 7 days a week along with the Hospice nurse making her twice a week visits. I am now realizing exactly how tough that job was, but I would not have traded to be anywhere else! We laughed, talked, cried and set in silence. My mother did not become disable until the last 6 days of her life, when she slowly drifted into a comma in front of my face. She said, "Help me". I had done all that I could do.


"God is Good," these are three words my mother most often spoke to her last breath. There are not enough words to describe my mother. She was a spiritual, positive, strong American woman of African descent. She was my perfect role model, physically attractive on the outside, yet extremely beautiful on the inside. I was so proud to call her mom. It is difficult knowing that I will no longer have my mother on this earth; however, I am thankful that God has truly blessed me with my perfect role model for the past twenty-six years. My mother was definitely a phenomenal woman!

I would like to share with you God's inspired word about my mother in the book of Proverbs:

Strength and honor are her clothing;
She shall rejoice in time to come
She opens her mouth with wisdom, and on her tongue is the law of kindness.
She watches over the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness.
Her children rise up and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
"Many daughters have done well, but you excel them all."
Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.
Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her own works praise her in the gates.

Mom, I striving to be just like you, your daughter,


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anniversary date 01-24-98
date of post 05-09-98

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