Please Don't


Suzi W.

Please don't assume that just because he was my Great-Uncle that I wasn't close to him, because he was like a GRANDFATHER to me. I loved talking to him and just being with him. He was a very special man. Please don't say "well, at least you got to see him before he died". Because the man I saw dying in that hospital bed was not my Uncle John. He was already gone, fishing somewhere, or talking with an old friend. Please don't act like I am not hurting. Because I am, hurting so bad, that not a day goes by that I don't cry. Please don't say "he's in a better place". Because the only place I want him to be is here. Please don't assume that because I am young, that I will get over this loss. Because it will take me a long, long time to get over it (if I ever can). Please don't avoid talking about him. I would love to sit and talk to you about him, he was one helluva guy. Please, if you can, just give me a hug and tell me something funny he said to you once. Or tell me how good of a friend he was, and how much you'll miss him. Just to think about how funny and sweet he was brings the biggest smile to my face. And most of all never forget him, that is how he lives on within us.

I LOVE YOU, UNCLE JOHN!

Suzi W.



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anniversary date 05-14-98
date of post 06-05-98

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